Wednesday, May 30, 2012


Besides wishing on rainbows, what do you do when you can't seem to do the right thing?

That's my conundrum today. There are shadows on my eyes, as Neil Young once wrote, and I feel helpless — unable to find the right words, unable to figure out the right thing to do.

It goes a little something like this. I know someone is hurting, and hurting bad. My first instinct is to rush in and try to fix things — but that's a terrible instinct because it won't help. If anything, it may well make the situation worse.

So, on to my second instinct: offer to be a friend and listen. But that doesn't seem sound, either, because I might be seen as overbearing or meddling or insensitive to the real, suffocating pain being felt. Introverts don't like to have their space invaded. I know I don't.

Third instinct: do nothing. That one sucks because that would seem to show I don't care what's going on, and I do. I do.

Option 4: Let the other person tell me what they need. But I'm not sure this person feels comfortable enough to do that.

Option 5: Let it be. See what happens. Hope for the best. Hope they can hear me now.

Choices, choices.

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